Coaching: Practical, Reasonable, Effective

My coaching can help you:

  • Attain goals
  • Minimize effects of adverse experiences
  • Maximize resilience
  • Make sense of your life
  • Create a clear path forward to transform your life

Work in these categories may be done simultaneously. I do not recommend working solely on goal attainment without overall personal development. Why?

Think of the old quote,

Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.

I have the experience and training to help. Details for the above categories are below.

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First Things First: What is Life Coaching?

Life Coaching is defined as a conversation between two people that aims to support sustainable change in behaviors and ways of thinking.

Life coaching is not psychotherapy. Psychotherapy often looks at past experiences and emotional problems; life coaching focuses on a new life path.

Life coaching is not mentoring. A mentor advises; a life coach assists you in discovering your own knowledge.

However, a coachee may not always have the best knowledge in a given situation. Rather than inserting my knowledge, I may from time to time suggest beneficial resources.

Making Sense of Your Life: The Circle of Fulfillment

With the right tools, organizing and making sense of your life is easier than you might think.

Much of my career* has been spent organizing information so it is accessible and easy to understand. For life coaching I have developed the Circle of Fulfillment, an inspiring step-by-step presentation with videos.

The Circle of Fulfillment provides you with an efficient and practical way to make sense of your life and to move toward your goals. Click here to get started.

If you become a client, I can also efficiently guide you through the following inventories:

  • Self-awareness (self-concept, personality, strengths, needs, desires, values, interests, etc.)
  • Social-awareness (social groups/roles/values, relationship needs/desires, emotional skills, etc.)
  • Academic (performance, motivation, confidence, capacity, time management, etc.)
  • Job/career (satisfaction, engagement, strengths, gaps, needs, desires, etc.)

These inventories are the scaffolds on which we build your individualized coaching structure.

*In my career I,

  • spent years working as a systems analyst, efficiently organizing information for academic and corporate researchers
  • created the 1200 page website JazzStandards.com, which catalogs and provides historical information for the jazz standards (songs played most frequently by jazz musicians)
  • documented the classic automobile restoration process at my website PopularRestorations.com, which contains 74 articles on every aspect of repair and restoration
  • have kept my hobbies in order. Based on its organization, my garage is featured in the book, Your Automotive Workshop

Goal Setting

Your goals may include:

  • Discovering meaning and purpose
  • Increasing happiness and confidence
  • Improving physical health and emotional wellness
  • Exploring career opportunities
  • Managing finances
  • Building better relationships
  • Succeeding in academic pursuits

My own story is one of transformation from rock bottom and clueless at age 19 to achieving success in each of the above categories. As such, I know how to guide you, by asking (the right) questions, summarizing, and offering relevant feedback. This can lead to important self discovery, defining/clarifying your personal goals, and moving forward to actions/behaviors for which you are held accountable.

I strongly encourage personal development work while moving toward your short-term goals. I am unable to work with individuals without emphasizing the process of personal values exploration.

Minimizing Effects of Adverse Experiences and Maximizing Resilience

Here are a few of the ways my life coaching can improve your well-being, confidence, and effectiveness while moving toward your best self:

Talking to someone you can trust: Talking to a professional coach trained to move you toward self-awareness and effective behaviors results in improved mental health. My style is kind, thoughtful, relaxed, non-judgmental, yet perceptive, insightful, and encouraging. All interactions are private and confidential.

Talking to someone who knows the landscape: Research demonstrates that the relationship with your professional is more important than the theory or techniques used. This truly sets my coaching apart. I relate to those with past adverse experiences. I have lived the transformation and thoroughly understand pain, anger, confusion, acting out, underperforming, and self-sabotage. I understand why lingering problems may occur later in life. I have studied the growth process for decades and can communicate that process to you in a short amount of time.

Turning shame into guilt: Instead of feeling bad about yourself you can instead feel regret over actions and behaviors you have exhibited. It is easier to understand and forgive yourself for past actions than to forgive yourself for "being a bad person." I can coach you toward this goal.

Building resilience: Resilience is the ability to mentally or emotionally cope with a crisis or to return to pre-crisis status quickly. Together we can identify a dozen ways of building your resilience. Once identified, you will be surprised at how many coping strategies you are already using in the coaching process -- without even thinking about it.